I live with a houseful of boys: four, to be exact.
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But they're still relatively young - so there are no nudie mags stashed between mattresses, no stealthily-accessed porn sites that someone forgot to erase out of the Internet history, nothing like that. As much as I'd love to think my kids won't be curious, I'm well aware that won't be the case: those things are looming and will probably start happening much sooner than I'd like. I mean, if I had my druthers, they wouldn't even think about sex until they were like But before all that happens - before they're exposed to boobs that are as round and firm as cantaloupes and pictures of taut, airbrushed, dimple-less butts - I'm exposing them to a different kind of female body.
Ours is not a modest household. I don't lounge around in the buff like my boys do and I spend more time saying, "Put on some pants!
Because I want them to see what a real female body looks like. Because if I don't - and their first images of a naked woman are the impossibly perfect physiques in those magazines or those movies - what kind of expectations will they have?
And what woman could ever live up to them? Between you and me, I'm dismayed, big time, by my post-baby body.
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But for the sake of my boys - and my future daughters-in-law - I lie through my teeth. When they ask about my stretch marks, I tell them proudly how growing a baby is hard work, and that they're like badges I've earned gaming references always hit home with dudes, no matter what you're explaining.
MY MUM SAW ME NAKED! I Tom Daley
As much as I'd like to cringe and shrink away when they touch my squishy belly, I let them squeeze my flab between their curious fingers. Do I hate it? I want to wail, "Leave my fat alone! But I don't.
Because for right now, for these few formative years, my flab is their one and only perception of the female body. And I want them to know that it's beautiful, even in its imperfection.
I tell them how strong my body is. They see me work out. They see me make healthy food choices, but still indulge my love of baked goods. And though - like most women - I might inwardly beat myself up over my jeans getting too tight, or groan in frustration at the numbers on the scale, I'm never anything but proud of my body in front of my boys.
He quickly turned to walk away, but not before seeing my goodies. What do you think?
My sons see me naked sometimes, and once again, I take my cues from them about whether they are comfortable with this or not. They have not so far expressed a problem, but if they did, I would respect that. I'm not talking nudist level undress. I do not do naked fashion shows. But if they come into my room in the morning and find me naked in. Feb 16, Thinking about all this, I came to a disconcerting realization: One day soon, I'll see my almost-nine-year-old son naked for the very last time. His decision to keep his private parts private could occur at any time, without warning. And that's fine and healthy, but it does mean my window for keeping track of this size thing is closing. Jan 02, My question: Is it normal for a year-old boy to walk around the house naked, in plain view of family members? No one seems to notice or care. There are no looks or comments.
What are you going to tell him? Son, what you saw was a naked woman, and naked women take showers naked? I don't see my mom often because she works out of town a lot. Whenever she comes into town, she wants me to drop all my plans and hang out with her.
She just got back in town today, and asked me to go out of town with her for vacation. Just be straight-up with her and say, "Mom, I love you, but I have my own family now and personal obligations to meet. I would love to hang out with you, but you have to give me a heads-up so that I can plan my schedule around your arrival and stay.
But whenever possible, make an exception to go out of your way to hang out with your mom. I just wanted to know who is your favorite gangster in history.
Aug 15, DEAR ANNIE A FEW WEEKS AGO, OUR YEAR-OLD SON, "MIKE," WAS INVITED TO A BIRTHDAY SWIM PARTY AT THE HOME OF A CLASSMATE. FIVE OTHER BOYS ALSO WERE INVITED. WE RECENTLY MOVED TO THIS AREA AND WERE. Jun 23, MY SON'S FRIEND SAW ME NAKED Dear Willie D: I used to not think anything of showering with the bathroom door unlocked because I lived alone with my . Why I Want My Sons To See Me Naked. I've never refrained from changing clothes in front of them, or leaving the door open when I shower, or nursing babies without a cover. Because I want them to see what a real female body looks like. By. Rita Templeton, Contributor.
Mine is Jesse James. My friends are always ganging up on me whenever we hang out or go shopping.
My sons naked
Engaging with our readers is essential to the mission of the Houston Press. I laughed it off, but after everything was over, one of my friends called me to say I should have said something to them.
I guess I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt. Do you think their comments were made with malicious intent, or do you think my friend was trying to be messy?
By the way, the friend who called me has a reputation for being messy. The next time you go shopping, throw some new friends in the bag.